What Happens During A Breakthrough Session?
Wondering what you can expect in a breakthrough coaching session?
I can´t speak for other breakthrough transformational coaches, but I´m happy to share the process I use and help you understand what to expect in the Breakthrough Session I offer.
The word ¨breakthrough¨ can be intimidating for potential clients. It conjures an image of something big and dramatic, and for some, it is frightening to think about a major revelation or physical response.
Okay, there are bodywork breakthrough practitioners who offer cathartic practices that cause emotional releases. These are often intense physical techniques such as stomping, screaming, deep-tissue manipulation, and other activities that can override the nervous system to intentionally push the body into a ¨risk¨ zone.
But this is definitely NOT what I do, or what breakthrough coaches offer. Our focus is on discovering the connections rather than releasing emotions physically.
In addition, the term¨trauma-informed coach¨ can paint a picture of a session in which you feel distressed rather than uplifted. But the fact that I have training in how to handle coaching sessions that address trauma does not mean we will spend the whole time talking about the most difficult experiences of your life!
Our purpose in including trauma is to put it on the table as one of the possible experiences that could have sparked a limiting belief that you created and repeated over the years. Looking at possible trauma is just ONE of the tools we use.
This is why our complimentary 15-minute Curiosity Call is so important. Before we schedule a Breakthrough Session, we take this time to talk about any concerns you have. I will answer your questions about how the session might feel and what might emerge in the process.
The best Breakthrough Sessions are both deep and light. Rather than distressing, these sessions tend to lead to a sense of relief and excitement about the future. Even in the case of limiting beliefs rooted in trauma, we balance the heaviness of the source with the lightness we are creating around it.
What exactly is a breakthrough?
Think of a breakthrough as a shift in perspective. Some Breakthrough Sessions lead to surprising revelations. Others lead to a deep recognition that what you always suspected to be the root of your limiting belief truly is what started it all. Both have very ¨A-ha!¨ vibes, because either way, once you know what you´re looking at, the tables are turned. (Now you are the one pounding on the table!)
In all cases, a Breakthrough Session with me offers:
*clarity about your limiting story
*deeper understanding of its impact on your habits, choices, and behavior
*a conscious and determined choice to release that stay-stuck story
*the creative and exciting process of re-imagining your new narrative
All of these steps combined constitute a breakthrough that takes you from one limiting way of viewing yourself and your options to another that opens up new prospects for being, growing, and creating in order to truly thrive.
ALL Breakthrough Sessions are conducted during our 4-Hour block of time devoted to back-and-forth voice messaging.
There´s no Zoom screen to distract us.
No live tech glitches.
And you can take your time to reflect before responding to my questions. (I recommend spending at least 5 minutes considering before replying, but YOU set the pace.)
Is breakthrough coaching like therapy?
Breakthrough coaching is not therapy. While therapy can be extremely useful in helping us understand and come to terms with our past experiences, it is a long process that requires months or years of regular sessions with a trained therapist.
In general, coaching is focused on increasing awareness, building skills, and reaching goals in order to enhance your present and future.
Breakthrough coaching takes that a step further, as it can lead to big changes and rapid results, especially when the focus is specific.
Some breakthrough coaches offer long sessions (four hours or longer) or a series of shorter sessions (two hours per day over three days, for example). Most breakthrough coaches choose to offer a series of weekly one-hour sessions over a period of months.
But in the Breakthrough Sessions I offer, your new awareness and story begin to take root on the very same DAY, and we follow up immediately in order to build momentum.
For the following 30 Days of your Integration Phase, there will be daily rounds of voice messaging coaching.
This Integration Phase is a critical period during which you will intentionally bring your new empowering story into your life daily through a series of exercises and direct actions.
This is not the norm for breakthrough coaching. It is a technique I created while doing pro bono work with women around the world who were struggling during the pandemic. These women were the sole breadwinners for their extended families, and had lost their source of income. It was clear that they had limiting beliefs that would stop them from even starting any new project or business, let alone becoming successful.
That´s how I ended up creating this super-fast technique, because we had such limited time to address their limiting beliefs. They needed to make money ASAP!
I was as surprised as my clients at how quick, effective, and long-lasting the results turned out to be. The results: 100% of the 88 clients reported experiencing a positive, meaningful, and lasting change that led them to exceed their success goals and create a deeply fulfilling life for themselves while supporting their families. (All within three months.)
How can a single Breakthrough Session be effective?
Research shows that changing a habit requires 30 days of consistent daily effort. And a limiting belief is simply a habitual thought pattern that can be changed in the same way as any other habit.
I created a Breakthrough + Support model rooted in an evidence-based approach to changing habits. My goal is to ensure that you experience the clarity and commitment that comes from a breakthrough, create the immediate momentum required to shift thoughts and actions, and receive consistent daily guidance and accountability in order to fully integrate your new belief.
As with changing any habit, it is essential to create inspiring triggers, maintain motivation, choose consistent action, and recognize your progress in order to embed your new narrative into your everyday life.
Through our daily contact via voice messaging, you will receive guidance and support that includes specific exercises and actions. Committing to these practices (20 minutes daily, plus another 10 minutes or so for our voice messaging interaction) and taking action toward your goals ensures that your Integration Phase is productive and effective in creating a lasting, positive change.
How will I feel during my Breakthrough Session?
Our goal is to make sure you remain relaxed and open. We need to trust each other and maintain honest communication.
Before the session even begins, we will make clear decisions about what you are willing and able to discuss. During the session, if we keep circling around a topic that seems key to your belief pattern, I will present it to you as a question first, asking if you´re comfortable exploring it before proceeding further.
Will I remember a traumatic experience during my Breakthrough Session?
This may happen, but it is not typical. Most of the time, these recalled memories are simply moments or details you might remember and share about experiences. These help to clarify the root of your limiting belief, and are likely to feel liberating rather than upsetting.
Please know that you will never be forced to enter into a conversation about anything you choose not to discuss. In addition, we will use terminology that you feel comfortable with. So, for example, if ¨trauma¨ is a word that creates fear or resistance for you, we will choose another term that will work for our purposes.
Some clients who state that they are willing, able, and even eager to address their trauma may recall memories that they have forgotten for decades. But our focus is on the discovery of links rather than digging into the deeper details of a memory.
At all times, my goal is to ensure that you feel safe and supported during your Breakthrough Session. If you choose to stay open to remembering, this can lead to deeper understanding and help you recognize the impact that forgotten moments can have on your life choices.
Will I cry during a Breakthrough Session?
It might happen. It´s important to remember that crying on its own may provide immediate relief, but it does not provide healing. I do not attempt to prompt or encourage crying, but if it does occur, I encourage you to spend a moment with your feelings and then reflect on questions that extend our exploration.
In my experience, the vast majority of clients who shed tears describe them as ¨happy tears¨ - these tend to an expression of relief and joy upon releasing the limiting belief you now recognize as the obstacle blocking your progress.
If you discover that your limiting belief is linked to a painful memory that you had forgotten, you might feel momentary distress. However, the relief you experience from this discovery and the insight it provides are likely to quickly shift your emotional state toward gratitude for finally understanding its role in your life.
There are more often moments of laughter in our Breakthrough Session! This laughter is an indication that you are gaining a sense of control over your story. Once you can laugh at the absurdity of the power it has had over you and your choices, you move into a place of lightness, possibility, and purpose.
What if I finish a Breakthrough Session without having a breakthrough?
To date, this has never happened. The Curiosity Call prior to scheduling your Breakthrough Session gives us a chance to decide together if you are ready, willing, and able to engage in this process to see, understand, release, and rewrite your limiting beliefs.
I will ask you questions that will help both of us understand how much resistance you might feel to the idea of change, including whatever might come up for you around the terms breakthrough, transformation, and trauma. We will talk about your daily schedule and see if you have time to set aside for a total of 30 minutes each day for 30 days.
It is very important that you feel not only open to and ready for change but excited about it and motivated to invest your time, energy, and resources in your transformation for 30 days. Through our Curiosity Call, it will become clear whether or not a Breakthrough Series is a good fit for you and your needs.
Please be aware that the Breakthrough Series is not for everyone. There are times when I have to tell someone that they are not yet ready, even when they believe they are. I do not want you to spend your time or money on a process that isn´t right for you, so I will be honest about this.
Is it safe for me to choose a Breakthrough Series if I am currently undergoing treatment for depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges?
Your safety is my top concern. I do not recommend a Breakthrough Series if you are currently experiencing symptoms of depression, anxiety, eating disorders, self harm, or suicidal ideation. We will not schedule a Breakthrough Session if I feel you are in a compromised or fragile state.
During our Curiosity Call, I will ask you to speak frankly about your personal history of any mental health challenges and treatments, including medication. I am not a psychiatrist or therapist. Though I understand the benefits of and have personally benefited from healing techniques that are not based on traditional Western medical practices, I recommend safe and effective medical/psychiatric treatment for mental health issues.
(For more on this, visit my Frequently Asked Questions page.)
What happens after my Breakthrough Session?
For some clients, our 4-hour block of time sharing together via voice messaging can be a period of elation and inspiration. For others, it can be characterized by a sense of calm and a newly-clear purpose.
In every case, you will receive After-Care Instructions from me to help you continue to process your experience while engaging in self-care practices that comfort you. The self-care combination that I recommend is:
1) going for a brisk walk or bike ride (any repetitive aerobic activity to suit your interest and ability)
2) writing in a journal when you return
3) taking a shower or bath
4) drinking a warm, soothing beverage
Clients find that this combination of sweat/spill/soothe allows them to move their bodies and get a surge of endorphins while processing their thoughts, release their ideas onto paper in their journal, soak and relax once their ideas have been captured, and feel comforted as they sit in silence while sipping something warm and delicious.
You will begin your Integration Phase on the evening of Day One with a series of affirmations and actions related to your new story. (These will be defined during our Breakthrough Session together.)
The first five days are a critical time to create momentum. We will be in contact DAILY and often do several back-and-forth voice messages each day. Make sure to set aside time for daily messaging in addition to setting up your cues, maintaining your motivation, engaging in your chosen actions, and noting your progress.
What happens at the end of the 30-Day Integration Phase after my Breakthrough Session?
During our month together, you will develop skills that will continue to support your progress and help you handle any other limiting beliefs that you discover or that may arise in the future.
And while it can feel a bit disorienting to go from daily coaching to being on your own, please know that we concentrate on building your skills and confidence throughout our 30 days so that you will be ready and excited to stride forward on your own!
Some clients who experience rapid growth during their Integration Phase choose to continue to work with me in order to face their new challenges and manage their sudden success. For these clients, I offer the VIP Evolve Series to continue to fast-track progress while ensuring that there is continuing support and guidance for an additional 60 days.
But most clients are happily and confidently moving forward after 30 days, and choose to do so without the additional support that the VIP Evolve Series offers.
And, in all cases, please remember that once we have worked together, I am always available to you to answer questions or offer guidance! If you decide you would like to have additional support, we can talk about the options available to you.
What if I don´t complete the Integration Phase? Can I get a refund?
All coaching is client-centered and client-dependent. It is always your choice to participate or to complete your coaching sessions.
If you are unable to or choose not to participate in the Integration Phase coaching sessions, please let me know immediately. If there is a change in your schedule, an emergency that requires your attention, or something else that prevents you from continuing, we can discuss ways to pick up where you left off at a later date in order to get you back on track.
Due to the nature of coaching sessions and the time invested before, during and after each one, there are no refunds available. This is made clear at the time you agree to begin your Breakthrough Session and Integration Phase. However, I will do my best to find a way to help you continue your process and integrate your new story into your life.
Do you offer any group coaching options or memberships for Breakthrough Series clients?
I am considering starting a membership program in October of 2024. This would be available to those who have completed the Breakthrough Series, and would include support via voice message coaching as well as weekly Office Hours on Zoom.
Questions? Check out my Frequently Asked Questions page or send me a message using the form on my Contact page
